Saturday, February 27, 2010

damn gossips

There were only a handful of co-workers who knew about mine and D's infertility issues and that we were pursuing IVF. Well, apparently, on our last in-service day, because I was gone for egg retrieval, one of the few told my whole department. So when I got back, there were a lot of "how are you doing?" questions from them, and based on the tone (you fellow infertiles know what I mean), I knew that they knew. Well, with the whole chemical pregnancy thing, and the moving on to a childless life, I figured I better fill them in or I'd be getting more glances at my belly and questions as to my pregnant status. So I emailed them, and told them that IVF didn't work for us, and that we were moving on to a different plan, which included travel each summer.

So I got some nice supportive emails back from some of them. And one woman stopped me in the hallway that afternoon, and said she had a story for me. I assumed it was about a student (since our department often shares stories of that nature), but no, it was a story about some woman that she knows that couldn't get pregnant (although she already has three kids, and had only been trying for 6 months for the most recent one), and she and her husband decided to take a break, and wham, like magic, she got pregnant. I could barely keep a straight face. I just wanted to laugh or roll my eyes because I had JUST told them we were moving on from trying to get pregnant and that we had accepted that we most likely would never have kids. I hope there aren't more of these in store for me.

4 comments:

  1. People suck! Sorry to head to deal with this "advice"

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  2. I know! I kept thinking "look, we just did IVF! You don't do IVF if your only problem is relaxing."

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  3. Did you give the person who spilled the beans hell for telling everyone?

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  4. Jem, I didn't, because I don't know which one spilled.

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