So I have this friend (who is really the wife of one of my husband's best friends), and she and I had a bonding moment in February when we discovered that we were all struggling to get pregnant. I am only a couple years older than she is, and I had already gotten the preliminary blood tests done and had an HSG, and D had had his semen analysis. This friend claimed that she and her husband had been TTC for 18 months, but hadn't had any tests done.
Last night, a few girls (including this friend) and I were hanging out. This friend knows all about mine and D's first fertility specialist appointment. Her advice last night was that we should go see a Reproductive Endocrinologist. I was all "um, yeah, that's what a fertility specialist is. I just say 'specialist' because my non-infertile friends understand what that means." Then she kept going on about how frustrating it is to not get pregnant when you want to (I totally agree there!). Then she was telling me that she thought her husband should go to a urologist. I asked if he had had an abnormal semen analyis then. She said he still hasn't had one. I told her they could save some money and just get the semen analysis done for like $30, and then only go to the urologist if there is a problem. I then asked if she had had any tests done yet, and the answer is still no. My question is if you are really frustrated with not getting pregnant in the two years they supposedly have been trying, wouldn't you want to know what the hell the reason is?
I must have given her a look, because then she said that she wasn't completely sure that she wants kids anymore. WTF?? She said she has a co-worker who is 31 weeks pregnant, and she is very uncomfortable right now, and now this friend is wondering if she wants to actually go through all that. Really? You didn't know that pregnancy, growing a human being inside your body, would be uncomfortable towards the end? I personally think it is worth it once you have your baby in your arms.
I am starting to think she just says things to fit in, and either hasn't REALLY been TTC, or maybe she and her husband were talking about it but hadn't made a decision yet, but she wants to know what's going on with me and D, so she pretends she is in the same position.
No one wants to be infertile, so it's odd to me for someone to PRETEND to be infertile.